The Reason Why

It’s easy for me to say that my change in lifestyle was a choice I made on my own. That deciding to throw in the towel with being a working mom, was my own doing. But the truth is, is that it wasn’t my own choice, nor was it my own doing.

If not for The Boyfriend, none of it would be possible. True, he supported me and his son for two years before I found a job, but this time ’round he’s been more supportive than I could ever have imagined. He’s the one who dried my tears while our Kid was sick in hospital. He’s the one who encouraged me to do what I wanted to do with my life, and to pursue what makes me happy. He’s the one who made it possible for me not to have to have a fulltime 9-5 job. He’s the one who talked me through all of the options and helped me pick up the pieces, when I thought there wasn’t going to be anything left to pick up. Countless times over the last four years.

He’s been there every time I needed him. He’s come to rescue me wherever and whenever I’ve needed it. He’s held my hand and calmed me down and helped me to be a better person. He’s shown me that you don’t need to be selfish to get everything that *you* want – all you need to do is look after those close to you, and they’ll do the same for you.

He’s the logic that speaks, when my gut instinct just wants to react, without thinking things through. He’s the firm foundation that lets me explore myself, and my place in the world as the mother of his child.

He’s the one that’s working late and weekends, to make up for the paycheque that I don’t get anymore. The one that’s sacrificed so much for me, and for his son. He’s the one that’s constantly seeking to better himself, to be a better father and to love his family more than he already does.

He’s the one that knows me better than myself. He’s the one that loves me in spite of myself. He’s the one that tries to give us everything, and more. He’s the reason why I am the person I am today. He’s the one that’s stuck by me, and has never let me down. Not once. It’s easy for me to say I’m lucky. But it’s not so easy for me to accept it, nor is it easy for me to feel I deserve it.

But, I guess that’s what makes me appreciate it all the more, lately. Right now? Right now I couldn’t ask for anything more.

Picture: Jeanette Verster Photography.

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13 Responses to The Reason Why

  1. Louise says:

    this was heart warming. you are a very lucky woman to have found your knight in shinning armour
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  2. joyanne says:

    as always you put your thoughts and feelings so perfectly into words. so happy for you to have someone like him. being loved like that is a real gift to treasure
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  3. Cath Jenkin says:

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  4. Lia says:

    “He’s shown me that you don’t need to be selfish to get everything that *you* want – all you need to do is look after those close to you, and they’ll do the same for you.”

    I love this… It’s something most of us need to realise in our relationships. Trusting that the person you love will put you first takes a lot of courage. It can be daunting at first but once the balance is there (that fact that you look out for him too) then you’re well on your way 🙂

  5. blackhuff says:

    The way you have describe your boyfriend is exactly how a boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife should be in a relationship/marriage. You are lucky to have someone like this.
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  6. Angel says:

    So awesome to have someone like that in your life!
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  7. cassey says:

    Yay for your Boyfriend, and really it’s a yay for love too. I’m with you on the it’s hard to believe you desrvese someone who is so good to you, and for you. But, we’re just as good to and for, those who love us as they are to us. Make sense?
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  8. cassey says:

    Grr spelling: deserve not desrvese
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  9. mandimadeit says:

    He is the one…. You deserve him just as much as he deserves you. A perfect match.

    I *adore* that pic! Needs to be blown up huge on a canvas somewhere in your house!

    love you xxx

  10. Louisa says:

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  11. alidaonline says:

    This made me go “awwwww”. Lovely post about love.
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  12. Hayley says:

    Love this post SO much!

  13. Tamara says:

    Best post I’ve read this week. And a lovely pic too!
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